Sunday, January 5, 2014

It's Not Who You Are That Holds You Back

It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not.

Ain't that the truth? At least for me.

For decades the one thing that I wasn't, held me back. My boss, co-workers, friends and family didn't seem to mind that I didn't have the one thing that held me back.

And that one thing? A college degree.

I had never needed one. I did well at all my jobs. I was often the "go-to" person for leadership, new skills training, etc. But something was missing that kept me from applying for positions inside and outside of my company. I tended to stay put for fear of having to compete and thinking that I didn't have all right pieces to even do that. So for years, no, decades, I felt less than. Unworthy. Not smart enough.

The birth of my son, Alejandro, changed my perspective on education. Or rather, on opportunities. Wanting to give my son every opportunity meant that I needed to give myself the same. In 2010, I started going to school full-time. I took a semester off after I finished my undergraduate degree, started on a Masters and now, I'm starting a second Master's degree. (Yes, there's probably a Doctorate Degree in my future. Overkill, I know.)

So, now that that one thing holding me back isn't a thing anymore, I'll take a look around for other things (and even people) that are holding me back.

This should be an interesting year. And you'll hear all about it if you stick around. I would love to hear what holds you back. And hope to be able to help in whatever way I can. So, tell me, what holds you back?


  1. You know, Lisa, there is TOO much that holds me back. I've been thinking about that a lot lately. I never wanted to be a follower but wanted to blaze my own trail. This year is the year of facing my fears, like public speaking, or having a book published. I have no idea how to do that, but I know what I want to write about.

    This short post means a lot to me. Just know you reached out through your words and touched someone else's spirit.

    Happy New Year!

    1. Thanks for your comments, Cathy. I'm so proud of you for moving forward. I know you can do whatever you decide to do. Please let me know if I can help you in any way.

  2. Useful exercise to look at those things that hold us back, as long as we can let go and move forward. You are certainly a testimony to that!

  3. Good for you! It must take incredible motivation and organizational skills to do this, and I commend you for it.

    1. I'm sure I am one of many doing all of this, Helene. But sometimes I really feel alone in this journey. I appreciate your comments and support. Thank you.